How to Choose your Wedding Party Members and Everything They Need to Know
For many Chicago couples, having people by your side on the day of your wedding is one of the sweetest parts of the whole day. Whether you have them standing next to you at the altar or helping you get ready on the big day, your people really make the day that much more special. Not only are they there day-of, but for the months of planning, they are there to support you and celebrate you to the fullest potential.
It’s not just about picking the best bridesmaid dress – it’s about finding those people that will make you feel like yourself on your big day. It can be a difficult task choosing who those people are, but it can also be exciting! Whether you're planning an intimate Chicago elopement or a large wedding celebration at one of the city’s most iconic venues, the people standing beside you should be chosen with care.
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Our biggest piece of advice throughout this whole journey is to choose the people that support you and are there to celebrate you and your partner.
Tip No. 1
It’s all about support
Things get tricky when it comes to feeling obligated to choose those you aren’t as close to or those who don't show up for you in consistent ways, it can sometimes feel less genuine and less like you on your big day. Your wedding is a sacred part of your love story, so choosing the people that you feel closest to is the best way to stay true to yourself.
Those that show up for you, celebrate your wins, and help you find peace in moments of high stress or chaos are a few key elements to choosing your bridal party. This doesn’t mean you have to choose only lifelong friends—sometimes newer relationships can carry deep importance too. The goal is to surround yourself with people whose love and energy elevate your experience.
Tip No. 2
Think about the commitment
Deciding to be a part of a wedding party is a big commitment – both financially and emotionally. Not only that, but it can also be a big time commitment. There’s a lot involved when it comes to weddings, and making sure that the people you are asking have the space in their life to do that.
Ask yourself if they can realistically support you through the process leading up and on the day of the wedding. Sometimes having honest conversations with these people can be the best way to decide if they can commit to being a part of your wedding party. Commitment can be scary, so choosing those that you know can deliver what you are asking is key!
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Tip No. 3
Make it unique
Your wedding party can be as personalized and unique as you want it to be! The traditional format of wedding parties is beautiful if that is up your alley, but it’s far from the only option. More and more Chicago couples are coming up with their own set of rules for their wedding party. Mixing things up is so fun and exudes a sense of personality throughout your big day. Many Chicago wedding venues cater to the perfect vibe that you and your wedding party exude. The people standing next to you are a reflection of the meaningful relationships in your life, each one representing a unique chapter and connection that has brought you to your partner!
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Tip No.4
Consider the size of your wedding
Having a large wedding party can be a challenge. The more people you include, the more coordination is required, especially throughout the planning process. A bigger group often comes with more opinions, more moving parts, and sometimes, a bit more pressure to manage. Getting married in the Chicagoland area means tight timelines, complex transportation, and oftentimes limitations to how many people you can have in your wedding party.
With that being said it can also be some of the sweetest times with all of your favorite people. Considering the challenges can help narrow people down, but of course we understand that sometimes it’s just hard to choose! Although, it is important to keep in mind that a smaller wedding party often brings more intimacy, less pressure, and easier logistics.
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Tip No. 5
Make the proposals unique
Once you have made your decision, proposing to your chosen people is next! These proposals have become quite the trend in recent years and we can’t get enough of them. You can make them as elaborate as you want, and adding personal touches is encouraged! Making it personal is key and helps your wedding party feel loved and supported by you as well.You're not just asking them to stand in your photos, you’re inviting them into your wedding journey. Making it feel as meaningful as it is is the perfect start to their wedding party experience.
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It’s not always about symmetrical photos or tradition, it’s about inviting the right energy to a once in a lifetime moment!
Make your wedding party an extension of your love story and remember you aren’t alone in this crazy journey! Planning your day with ease can seem like a far fetched idea, but including and choosing your support system will help the day be the most amazing day. Don’t forget! As always, we are here to help you through expert day of coordination every step of the way.
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